It's my day off today, and like I usually do, I got my first cup of coffee and logged in to Facebook. I love Facebook. It's a great way to keep up with family and friends. I will admit I am addicted to the games, and that is where most of my 2169 friends came from. Yes, you read right. I have 2169 Facebook friends.
I love seeing recent pictures of my grand kids, especially since I can't visit as often as I would like. One set lives 100 miles one direction, the other 150 in the opposite direction from where I live. I also like seeing what my friends and co workers are up to. Funny pictures, videos, and memes make my day. I don't mind when these friends, family and co-workers post about the problems they are having or just need to vent about their bad day. Most times I can commiserate. I do it myself on occasion. But mostly I try to post happy, funny or meaningful posts. Music videos of artists I love or have just discovered. Laughing babies are a favorite thing for me. Cute cat pics aren't my usual thing, but I do find one I just can't help but re-post occasionally. Facebook is a happy place for me, and I try to reflect that in the things I share.
But apparently that isn't true for a lot of the people I have on my friend lists. Like I said, I acquired almost all of them through the game apps. Some have become people I look forward to seeing posts from, even though we no longer play games together. Then there are the ones who seem to enjoy how miserable their lives are and want to share their misery with everyone else. They are constantly posting about the drama in their lives. I'm not talking about health issues, which I don't mind so much. It's the fights they get into with other Facebook friends. The posts are usually filled with bad language. Don't get me wrong, in real life, I curse myself, but not on Facebook. I find it rude and inconsiderate. I might occasionally repost a meme that has a bad word, but I never go on a rant with every other word a curse word, the way some do. And nine times out of ten, I have no idea who the person they are complaining about is, or care. To me, that is something that should be handled in a private message.
Some people post memes that are all about how I can't stand you, eff you, etc. They are not directed to anyone in particular. Am I to assume that you feel that way about every single person on your friends list? Me? Did I do something to offend you? Or do you just think the meme is funny? Do you call everyone a bitch? Do you say these things in real life, to every single person you see? Because that is the impression I am getting from your posts. Is your life so horrible that you need to say these kind of things on a daily basis? I think the better solution would be to find some new friends. Put some positive and uplifting influences in your life, instead of staying in the vicious cycle of negativity. But misery loves company, and it is easier said than done.
Some posts make no sense to me, but don't really bother me enough to unfollow the person. They are just annoying. Like the hug posts. Really? You need a hug, and me commenting helps? Okay.And the copied post about cleaning out your friend list if I don't comment. Seriously? Go right ahead, not going to hurt my feelings. Some people post this on a weekly basis. I never comment, and yet I am still your friend. Hmmm. And could someone explain to me how scrolling past a post makes me heartless or a bad person, or less Christian? And the one that is the most annoying of all, the challenges to post a word that starts with a particular letter. Most people can't do it? Yeah right. Just a way to get your name on a list for them to bombard you with scams and ads.
So my solution is to unfriend, or unfollow. I unfollow those who tend to post things like child and animal abuse pictures. I don't think they are bad people, I just don't want to see those kind of posts. But they may enjoy my posts, so I don't unfriend. Extreme religious or political posters get unfollowed too. Not my cup of tea. I tend to only unfriend people who don't play my games, rarely post, and I can't find any reason why they friended me in the first place. Scammers. Men looking to hook up.I am happily married, and if you looked at my page like you claimed, you would know that.If you pm me with a flirty message, I will not answer, not going to encourage you.
I love Facebook. I love the online friends I have made there, even though we will probably never meet in real life. I love the games, the funny memes, the inspirational videos, the glimpses into other peoples lives. I don't like or comment on every post, and don't expect you to do the same for mine. Facebook is my happy place. But sometimes it just gets on my nerves, and I need to vent. Rather than put it on my wall, I decided to vent here.
Rant over. I feel better already.
